Fostering enmity is the meanest of all human activities. Unfortunately, creating enmity between people requires nothing more than a good helping of stupidity served up with poor judgment and a disregard for people’s feelings. With these ingredients, you can soon find yourself surrounded by a host of people wrangling, cursing, and hating each other.
Experience has taught me the wisdom of exercising patience with those who argue with me, showing them courtesy and applying the remedy prescribed in the Qur’an: to respond with what is better.
“Repel (evil) with what is best. Then the person between whom and you there had been enmity will become as if he were a dear friend.” – [Surah Fussilat: 34]
I have also learned from experience not to begrudge those who have resolved themselves to hate me. Such people are a part of life. In Allah’s wisdom, they are the price one has to pay for success and for engaging in any productive activity in this world.
But I say: My enemies, I thank you.
It is you who have taught me how to listen to criticism – even hurtful criticism – without becoming embarrassed. You have taught me how to go forward without hesitation, even after hearing the most degrading of insults and discouragements.
This is an extremely important lesson in life that cannot be learned from a book. It can only be learned through the experiences Allah causes us to endure. At first, it stings bitterly, but a person must learn to deal with it.
My enemies, I thank you.
You have made me more self-reliant. You have taught me not to be taken in by flattery. You have put both praise and censure into perspective and given me a balanced view. Because of you, I do not fall victim to the excessive praise of flatterers, or become vain due to the over-eagerness of those who see in me more than my true merit and cannot see my faults. Such people are your opposite, since you only see my faults and regard even my good qualities as bad.
About The Author
Salman bin Fahd bin Abdullah Al-Oadah or Salman al-Oadah (born 1955 or 1956) is a Saudi cleric or Sheikh and Muslim scholar. Al-Ouda is a member of the International Union for Muslim Scholars and on its Board of Trustees. He is a director of the Arabic edition of the website Islam Today appears on a number of TV shows and authors newspaper articles. He completed a B.A., M.A. and Ph.D. in Islamic jurisprudence at Imam Muhammad bin Sa’ud University. Incarcerated for five years for inciting opposition to the Saudi government, al-Ouda emerged again “rehabilitated” in 1999 to become one of the kingdom’s most prominent religious spokespersons. Salman al-Oadah was imprisoned for anti-government activities in 1994. He was against US-led coalition war against Iraq.
He committed to memory a number of short treatises on various subjects. Among these were:
– Al-`Usûl al-Thalâthah, al-Qawâ`id al-Arba`ah, Kitâb al-Tawhîd, and al-`Aqîdah al-Wâsitiyyah, all of which pertain to Islamic beliefs
– Matn al-Ajurrûmiyyah in Arabic grammar, which he memorized and then taught to his young pupils in the mosque.
Among the roughly fifty books that he has published are:
- The First Strangers,
- Characteristics of the Strangers,
- Withdrawing from Society and Participating in It’,
- A Discussion with Sheikh Muhammad al-Ghazâlî,
- Who has the Right to Engage in Independent Juristic Reasoning?
- Guidelines for Studying Islamic Law.